Perspective | Robyn on Purpose

It All Starts With Perspective

Perspective is the lens that shapes your world. It's how you interpret life — it's how you see yourself, others, and the world around you. It’s formed by your experiences, beliefs, and emotions, colouring every decision, assumption, and interaction.

But while your perspective feels true, it isn’t always accurate. We rarely see things as they are — we see them as we are. Our history, wounds, hopes, and fears all tint the lens. That’s why two people can live through the same moment and walk away with entirely different truths.

The beauty of perspective is that it isn’t fixed. It can shift. And when it does, your entire inner world opens — and that’s where possibility lives.

Once you begin to trust who you truly are—not the version shaped by fear or expectation, but the one beneath it all—your entire presence changes. You act with clarity. You show up with calm. Your confidence builds, your actions align, and without even trying, others start to meet you with the same respect and admiration you’re finally giving yourself.

In many ways, this website is a love letter to perspective — an invitation to see yourself, your path, and your life through new eyes.

Perspective Has the Power to Change Everything

You cannot change your life without changing your perspective.
And you cannot change your perspective without being willing to see things differently.

It always begins within.

Before anything shifts around you, something must shift in you.
A belief. A reaction. A story you’ve carried without questioning.

Here are just a few ways your perspective might shift:

You believed you failed — until you saw how far you’d come.
You blamed yourself for a reaction — until you understood where it really began.
You resented your past — until you realized it gave you the strength you need now.
You thought you weren’t worthy of love — until you saw how deeply you’d been protecting yourself.
You thought you were stuck — until you realized your restlessness was a sign to grow.

These shifts don’t come from certainty.
They come from curiosity — and the courage to ask,
“What else might be true?”

Big Picture Shifts: How Perspective Changes More Than Just You

Perspective doesn’t only shape your inner world — it affects how you relate, respond, and move through life.

When your view expands, so does your compassion.
You begin to see beyond your own reactions.
You meet others with less judgment, and more understanding.
You soften in the places where you once held firm.
And that changes everything.

Consider:

A parent who once judged their child for being “too sensitive,” now seeing that sensitivity as a gift of empathy
A career-focused high-achiever who, after burnout, redefines success as peace, not productivity
A person who once feared vulnerability, now learning that it’s the foundation of real connection
Someone raised with rigid beliefs about gender or sexuality, changed by witnessing the lived experience of someone they care about.
A woman who blamed herself for everything, learning that not everything broken is hers to fix.

These moments don’t just shift your thinking — they change how you show up in the world.
They heal relationships.
They change how you parent, how you partner, how you lead.

Because when your lens changes, so does the story you live out loud.

A Note on Noticing
If you’re reading this and thinking, “I know someone who really needs a shift in perspective,”—pause for a moment. That thought says more than you might realize.

Because often, the moment we start noticing what others need to change… is the moment we’re being invited to shift something within ourselves.

Not because you’re wrong — but because real perspective work always starts from the inside out. Noticing what you want others to see often reveals what you’re being asked to reflect on, soften toward, or explore more deeply in yourself.

And here’s the deeper truth:
You cannot change another person.
You can’t force them to see differently, live differently, or grow before they’re ready.

What you can change is your own clarity. Your boundaries. Your expectations.
You can decide what you will participate in, what you will put up with, and what you will choose to walk away from.
That’s where your power lives.

This isn't judgment — it’s an invitation.
One that begins, as all meaningful change does, with you.

How to Shift Your Perspective

Your perspective is powerful—but it’s not permanent. It can be stretched, softened, reoriented. Here are some of the most impactful ways to open that lens:

Reflection
You don’t need all the answers—just better questions. True reflection invites you to wonder, “What might I be missing?” instead of looping on “Why did this happen?” It challenges your assumptions, softens your judgments, and lets you witness a moment through a more compassionate, grounded lens.

Experience
Some shifts can only happen by living through them. Falling in love. Losing someone. Moving cities. Starting over. It’s in the rawness of experience—when your world expands or contracts—that your perspective is stretched in ways you couldn’t have imagined.

Immersive Storytelling
Stories place you in shoes you’ve never walked in. A novel or movie lets you live inside the emotional truth of someone unlike yourself—expanding your empathy and dissolving narrow views. Fiction teaches you what it’s like to feel, love, suffer, and survive… as someone else.

Lived Truths
Hearing what another human being has actually walked through—whether in a book or in person—can dismantle even the deepest biases. It changes how you understand the world and what people carry. A single perspective shift here can ripple through everything you believe.

Gratitude

Gratitude doesn’t erase the hardship—but it helps you see what it gave you. The strength you didn’t know you had. The lesson you learned. The compassion you wouldn’t trade. A softened heart and a clearer lens.

Gratitude also helps you stop and really see what's already here. It’s easy to overlook the goodness in your life when it becomes familiar — but that doesn’t make it any less valuable. What you once prayed for might now be part of your everyday. When you remember to be grateful for what you have, your perspective shifts — and you begin to see your life through the lens of abundance rather than lack. That shift changes everything.

Service
When you feel small, lost, or disconnected, showing up for someone else can re-anchor you. Even the smallest acts of kindness shift your energy. They remind you that your impact matters, that you’re not as separate as you think.

Solitude
Perspective can’t shift in chaos. It needs stillness. Create space from the constant input—the opinions, the fear, the noise. Let yourself unplug so your own voice has room to rise. Stillness is not the absence of progress—it’s where clarity begins.

Why This Website Exists

At the heart of this website is a single intention:

To help you realign and reconnect to your truest self.

Changing your perspective shows you the way there.

Whether you’re reading an insight, exploring your numerology chart, journaling through Soul Support prompts, or unpacking a universal truth in a way that finally clicks—everything here is designed to stretch your lens.

Shifting perspective isn’t a one-time event.
It’s a lifelong practice.

As you grow, heal, stumble, and evolve—your perspective grows with you.

You’re not here to be fixed.
You’re here to see differently—so you can live more truthfully.
And I’m here to help with that.

The Core of Perspective

At its root, perspective comes down to two core assumptions:

You assume your view of someone is the full truth
You assume your view of yourself is the full truth

What These Assumptions Create

These assumptions don’t seem harmful at first—but they quietly shape how you experience everything:

You stay stuck in blame, resentment, or hurt (because you're certain someone should have acted differently)
You internalize criticism or carry shame (because you believe you're flawed, broken, or unworthy)
You can’t move forward from a past situation (because your story about what happened has hardened into fact)
You repeat the same emotional patterns (because your view of yourself or others never shifts)
You close yourself off to healing or connection(because you've already decided how things are)

What Changes When Perspective Shifts

The moment you question these assumptions, even gently, something powerful happens:

You make space for other truths to exist
You soften in places where you once held tight
You start seeing people as layered, not labeled
You begin offering yourself the same grace you offer others
You free yourself to grow beyond the roles you were taught to play

Where These Assumptions Take Hold
These two beliefs—about others and about yourself—might seem simple, but they shape everything. And they rarely announce themselves. They show up in your reactions, relationships, inner dialogue, and emotional stuck points.

When we take our perspective as truth, we stop being curious. We stop questioning the stories we’ve absorbed, the roles we’ve accepted, or the meaning we’ve assigned.

By looking more closely at each assumption, you begin to see where your perspective might be limiting your growth, your connection, or your peace.

1. You Assume Your View of Someone Is the Full Truth

This isn’t about excusing harm or denying the reality of what happened. Some actions were deeply wrong. Some people made you believe things about yourself they had no right to. But healing often invites a shift—not to let them off the hook, but to loosen their grip on your story. Over time, you may choose to see their behaviour through a different lens—not for their sake, but for your own peace.

Compassion, if it comes, is not a pardon—it’s a release.

And while some wounds run deep, many of the stories that shape our perspective are far more subtle. This is about the everyday assumptions, judgments, and interpretations we carry—often without realizing it. The quiet moments when we mistake our viewpoint for the full truth. The narratives we tell ourselves that silently shape how we show up.

You might believe:

They were rude because they don’t like you
They stopped reaching out because you did something wrong
They’re selfish, arrogant, inconsiderate — because of one moment that confirmed the story in your mind

In reality, you’ve filled in the blanks. You’ve made your role the hero… or the victim (not in the true trauma sense, but in the mental story sense). You’ve interpreted what they said, or didn’t say, through your lens — your emotions, expectations, and unspoken wounds.

We do this all the time.
It’s human.

But it’s also where misalignment begins.

Because most of the time, the story in your head doesn’t match the actual reality.

You don’t see what they’re going through.
You don’t know what shaped their response.
You don’t realize how much of your reaction is actually about you — your fears, your history, your needs.

Perspective work here doesn’t mean minimizing harm.
It means getting honest about the narratives you’ve built — and whether they’re truly serving you.

2. You Assume Your View of Yourself Is the Full Truth

This one runs deeper.
Because the stories we hold about ourselves are rarely ours alone.

They’re formed early — in childhood, in culture, in family systems.

If you were told you were enough, you likely believe in your worth
If you were told you were a burden, too loud, too emotional, not enough… that became your truth

But it wasn’t the truth.
It was conditioning.
And the pain is real.

Your self-perception is shaped by:

Parental messaging (spoken or unspoken)
Cultural or religious doctrines
Social media and comparison
Past trauma and emotional survival strategies
Roles you had to play to stay safe, loved, or accepted

So when you believe “I’m too much,” “I’m not good enough,” “I’m unlovable,” — those thoughts may feel true, but they’re not your soul’s truth. They are echoes of systems, stories, and scars that were handed to you before you had a choice.

Perspective here isn’t about pretending those influences didn’t matter.
It’s about reclaiming your right to choose who you are now — beyond what you were taught to believe.

The Invitation

Both of these assumptions—about others, and about yourself—can quietly run your life if you never pause to question them. But when you do, something powerful happens:

You stop reacting from old stories.
You begin responding from deeper truth.
And everything changes.

How Do You Know You Need a Perspective Shift?

Your emotions will tell you.

Hurt.

Defensiveness.
Anger.
Disappointment.

Judgement.

These moments of discomfort aren’t just emotional reactions — they’re invitations.
Signals that something inside you wants to be understood, not avoided.

When you find yourself stuck in a thought loop, reacting in ways that surprise even you, or spiraling through the same conversation in your head for the tenth time — that’s your sign.

When something hits you that hard… it’s rarely about just that thing.
It’s about what it touches beneath the surface.

And that’s where the real work begins.

When You Feel Hurt

Hurt often shows up when something important to you feels unseen, dismissed, or devalued. It’s the heart’s way of saying, “This mattered to me.” We tend to treat hurt as a weakness to get over — but in truth, it’s a message pointing toward what needs acknowledgment or healing.

When hurt arises, pause before rushing to fix, justify, or numb it. Instead, get curious. Ask yourself:

What part of me feels unseen or misunderstood? Sometimes it’s not about the situation itself, but the memory it stirs — moments when your voice didn’t matter or your needs were overlooked.
Is my reaction about the present moment, or is it touching something older? Old wounds often disguise themselves as new ones.
What story am I telling myself about this pain? That you’re not valued? Not enough? Not safe to trust? Naming the story helps loosen its grip.

Hurt is rarely asking for punishment — it’s asking for understanding. When you trace it back to its roots, you begin to see the pattern: how you protect yourself, what you expect from others, and where you’ve learned to minimize your own needs.

The shift comes when you stop interpreting hurt as evidence that something’s wrong with you — and start seeing it as evidence that something within you is ready to be seen, softened, and healed.

When You Feel Defensive

Defensiveness is the body’s instinct to protect the self — not in response to logic, but in response to a feeling of threat, vulnerability, or being misunderstood. It often shows up when feedback touches an old wound, when you fear being misunderstood, or when you sense that your worth is being questioned. Beneath the impulse to defend is usually a quiet fear: “If I don’t explain myself, they won’t see who I really am.”

Instead of pushing the feeling away, pause and listen. Ask yourself:

What am I trying to protect right now? Is it my reputation, my self-image, or a part of me that still feels small and unseen?
Does this reaction fit the situation — or does it feel bigger than what’s actually happening? When your response feels amplified, it’s often pointing to an older story.
What would happen if I didn’t defend, but simply stayed curious? Sometimes the truth doesn’t need to be proven — just understood.

Defensiveness can reveal where your self-trust wavers. The more grounded you feel in your own integrity, the less urgency there is to convince others of it. When you shift from guarding your worth to trusting it, you move from reaction to presence.

True strength isn’t in building a wall — it’s in knowing you don’t need one to stand tall.

When You Feel Angry

Anger is one of the clearest indicators that a boundary has been crossed — sometimes by others, sometimes by yourself. It’s an alarm bell for injustice, disrespect, or unmet needs. Beneath every surge of anger is often a quieter emotion: hurt, fear, disappointment, or powerlessness. When anger speaks, it’s saying, “Something here is not okay.”

Rather than judging the feeling, get curious about its message. Ask yourself:

What boundary or value feels violated right now? Anger often signals where you need to reclaim power or protection.
What emotion might be hiding underneath? Sometimes anger is easier to feel than sadness, shame, or grief.
Am I reacting to what’s happening, or to a pattern I’ve seen before? When the response feels bigger than the moment, it’s pointing to an older wound that still needs attention.

Anger, when understood, can become a powerful ally for clarity and change. It reveals what matters most and pushes you toward honesty. The shift happens when you stop seeing anger as something to suppress and start treating it as a compass — one that points you back to self-respect and truth.

When expressed consciously, anger doesn’t destroy peace — it protects it.

When You Feel Disappointed

Disappointment arises in the space between expectation and reality — the gap between how you hoped something would unfold and how it actually did. It’s not just sadness over what happened; it’s grief for what could have been. At its core, disappointment reveals your attachment to an outcome, your investment in hope, or your belief that effort guarantees reward.

But sometimes, disappointment isn’t just about what happened — it’s about who didn’t show up how you thought they would. You expected someone to act with care, integrity, or thoughtfulness… because that’s how you would have shown up. And when they didn’t, it hurt. It felt personal. But their behaviour is a reflection of where they are, not a verdict on your worth — or a blueprint for how everyone else will behave.

When disappointment surfaces, let it slow you down rather than harden you. Ask yourself:

What expectation wasn’t met, and where did it come from? Was it a promise made — or one I quietly made to myself?
Am I mourning the situation — or the story I told myself about it? Sometimes we’re grieving an imagined version of people or possibilities.
Am I upset because they didn’t act like me? Is it possible their behaviour reflects their conditioning, not their intention?
What does this moment reveal about what I value? Disappointment often highlights what matters most to your heart — reliability, reciprocity, belonging, honesty.

Disappointment invites you to refine, not resign. It teaches discernment — where to place your trust, what truly aligns with your values, and how to stay open without abandoning self-respect. When you honour the ache without closing off your hope, disappointment becomes less about loss and more about realignment. It’s the moment you stop waiting for things to meet your expectations — and start living in a way that reflects your own integrity. You become the source of what you once longed for in others: honesty, reliability, depth, care. Instead of hoping people or circumstances will rise to your standards, you rise to them — and in doing so, you attract what resonates with the version of you that no longer settles.

When You Feel Judgment

Judgment often arises when something in another person mirrors a part of yourself that you’ve rejected, denied, or outgrown. It can surface as irritation, criticism, or superiority — but underneath, it’s usually discomfort with your own reflection. Judgment says, “I don’t want to be that,” or sometimes, “I wish I could be that.”

When judgment appears, resist the urge to shame yourself for it. Instead, see it as an opportunity to understand what it’s pointing toward. Ask yourself:

What exactly am I judging — and why does it bother me? The sharper the reaction, the closer it often hits to something personal.
Does this judgment protect me from feeling something deeper — insecurity, envy, fear, or regret? Judgment is often a defense against vulnerability.
What truth might this reveal about my own values or wounds? The people who trigger you the most often highlight where you’ve disowned a part of your own humanity.

Judgment loses its edge when it’s met with awareness. Once you name what’s being stirred within you, compassion naturally follows — for both yourself and the other person.

The shift happens when you stop using judgment to distance yourself from what’s uncomfortable and start using it to integrate what’s been unseen. The more acceptance you cultivate inside, the less need you have to project outside.

When you meet judgment with curiosity, it becomes less about being “right” — and more about becoming whole.

Moving From Reaction to Clarity

I’ve learned that when I find myself in a space of hurt, righteous anger, or even shame— asking, “why did I behave that way?” — it’s not a sign to judge. Whether I’m judging myself, the other person, or the situation, my reaction is an invitation to get curious.

To ask: What’s really going on underneath this?

Instead of feeding my ego with all the reasons I’m right, justified, or the victim (which, let’s be honest, feels satisfying in the moment—and also, let’s be really honest, I still do this part every time), I’ve learned that those loops don’t move me forward. They keep me stuck. And if I’m feeling that upset over something—it’s never really about that thing. There’s always something deeper.

This is what helps me move from reaction to clarity:

The Journaling

I write it all down: the anger, the guilt, the justifications, the heartbreak, the “how could they,” and the “what is wrong with me.” I get it out of my body and onto paper.

Then I ask:
• Why is this so triggering for me?
• What does this remind me of?
• Where have I felt this before?

Somewhere in that process, the patterns start to reveal themselves.

The Questions

“What is the universe trying to show me here?”
“What is the lesson I keep missing?”
“What part of me needs attention, healing, or truth?”

The Crying

When the realization hits, it’s almost always followed by tears.
Tears for the little girl in me who was taught not to shine.
Tears for the version of me who thought her worth was tied to how much she gave.
Tears for all the times I overreacted—when it was never really about the moment, but about a past wound I had buried deep.

The Mantra

To help the truth land in my body and change the story in my mind, I create a healing mantra:
“It is safe for me to be seen, to be valued, to be cherished.”
Or, “I am not too much. I am exactly right.”
Or, “I can release this story. It no longer defines me.”

The Healing

Every single time I do this, I come out the other side lighter. More compassionate. More whole.
Because I didn’t just try to move past it—I listened to what was actually going on beneath the surface and gave it space to be seen, felt, and released.

A Change in Perspective Changes Everything

This isn’t repair, it's revelation. It’s about finally seeing yourself with truth, softness, and depth.
It’s about realizing that your patterns hold stories — and those stories can be re-written.

Because when your energy shifts, your view shifts.
And when your view shifts… so does your life.

That’s the power of perspective.