Robyn On Purpose
Discover Your True Purpose
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Soul Subjects
Why do we choose to incarnate?
Souls choose to incarnate because growth requires experience. In spirit, we may understand concepts like love, compassion, or resilience — but it is only on Earth, through real relationships and challenges, that these lessons are lived. Incarnation gives us the contrast of joy and sorrow, success and struggle, connection and loss. Each experience shapes us, stretches us, and deepens our soul’s capacity for growth and evolution.
Why Is Contrast Important?
Without contrast, there is no growth. We cannot fully know joy without having tasted sorrow. We cannot truly value love without the ache of heartbreak. Success means little without the memory of struggle, and compassion is born only when we’ve experienced suffering ourselves. Contrast sharpens our awareness and makes life’s lessons real.
When someone hasn’t faced certain experiences — loss, heartbreak, failure, or hardship — they may struggle to develop empathy for others. Without contrast, they can become disconnected from the humanity of those around them. We see this in public figures who live insulated lives of privilege and control, yet seem unable to extend compassion or humility because they have not known struggle in the same way.
Contrast doesn’t come to punish us. It comes to open us — to deepen our awareness, to awaken compassion, and to remind us that all of life’s subjects must be lived, not just understood.
Remembering What the Soul Already Knows
Our souls are ancient, but not all of us have chosen the same number of lifetimes. While we don’t consciously remember our past lives, the lessons we’ve learned are carried forward. For some, kindness, compassion, or generosity feel natural — they are ingrained in the soul from many lifetimes of practice.
For others, those lessons aren’t yet second nature. They need to be awakened or remembered. This often happens through stories — hearing another’s struggles, reading a book that resonates, or watching a film that stirs empathy. When a story touches us, it can trigger a deep sense of recognition: a reminder of the compassion that lives within the soul, waiting to be remembered.
And for others still, this may be one of their very first lifetimes. Or perhaps a previous life was cut short before growth could unfold. In these cases, the lesson simply hasn’t yet been lived. Without the contrast of suffering or loss, compassion and empathy cannot truly take root. These lessons must be experienced to be understood. Souls in this place are not failing — they are simply at a different stage in their journey.
The Soul’s Plan
Incarnations are not random — they are meticulously planned. Before arriving on Earth, the soul chooses the circumstances that will best support its growth. Your birth date, your given name, even the parents and environment you are born into are part of that design.
Numerology reveals this hidden structure. It shows that the universe communicates in patterns, cycles, and vibration — and that these patterns shape the lessons you are here to encounter. The numbers of your birth and name carry the signature of your soul’s intentions, offering a map of the experiences that will serve your growth.
While free will determines how you move through life, the framework is already in place: a carefully designed plan written in the universal language of numbers.
The Soul Subjects
Choosing to incarnate is choosing to enter life’s curriculum — to move beyond theory and into practice, where growth becomes embodied. Each incarnation provides opportunities to explore different lessons, relationships, and choices. Over time, these experiences build on one another, helping the soul evolve in wisdom and wholeness.
The Soul Subjects stem from the numbers found in the study of numerology. Each of the nine numbers reflects a core lesson the soul must explore. None of these subjects is more important than another — they are equally vital parts of the journey. These lessons don’t exist in isolation — they overlap and shape each other as the soul evolves. Together, they outline the nine core subjects of soul growth — the areas of life we are each called to experience, integrate, and embody.
Independence & Identity
Living with confidence and originality, taking initiative, and trusting your own direction without isolating yourself from others.
Harmony & Sensitivity
Building cooperative, supportive relationships, using empathy and diplomacy to create balance without losing your own voice.
Expression & Joy
Sharing creativity, communication, and optimism in ways that feel genuine and uplifting, while staying connected to depth and meaning.
Stability & Structure
Creating dependable routines, working with discipline and practicality, and building foundations that support growth without rigidity.
Freedom & Change
Embracing new experiences with curiosity and adaptability, enjoying freedom while maintaining a sense of responsibility and direction.
Responsibility & Care
Offering compassion, service, and nurturing to others while balancing care for yourself, avoiding over-sacrifice or control.
Wisdom & Inner Truth
Honouring time for introspection and spiritual depth, trusting your intuition, and seeking truth without slipping into mistrust or detachment.
Power & Manifestation
Pursuing goals with ambition and resilience, using resources and influence with integrity, and balancing material success with deeper purpose.
Compassion & Completion
Acting with forgiveness, wisdom, and global awareness, releasing what no longer serves, and bringing closure with kindness and vision.
Alignment vs. Misalignment
Every Soul Subject holds both a strength and a shadow. When we are in alignment, we express the subject’s qualities in healthy, integrated ways — like independence without isolation, or power guided by integrity. Alignment feels natural, expansive, and supportive of growth.
When we are in misalignment, the same energy shows up in distorted or limiting ways. Independence can become arrogance or fear of connection. Responsibility can slip into over-sacrifice. Power can turn into control or misuse of influence. And where completion is the lesson, we may cling to what’s ending, resist closure, or hold on to resentment. Misalignment isn’t failure — it simply signals that the lesson is still being integrated.
What matters is not perfection, but awareness. Life continually invites us to notice where we are aligned, where we are misaligned, and what small shifts could bring us closer to balance. The shadow isn’t separate from the lesson — it’s part of it. Through experiencing both sides, we come to embody the subject’s true strength.
With this in mind, let’s explore each subject on it’s own. Each title below links to a guide where you’ll find signs of alignment and misalignment, as well as simple practices to bring yourself back into balance.
At its heart, this subject is about learning who you are apart from the expectations, approval, or influence of others. Independence doesn’t mean isolation — it means having the confidence and originality to walk your own path, while still being connected to the world around you. True independence also requires an awareness of your intentions, your values, and your willingness to act on them. Without that inner clarity, independence risks becoming reactive rather than authentic.
When aligned, this lesson shows up as self-reliance, leadership, and initiative. It’s the energy of someone who trusts their own instincts and is willing to take risks to follow their truth. They don’t wait for permission; they act from conviction.
In misalignment, independence can distort into arrogance, selfishness, or fear of relying on others. Someone may resist collaboration, dismiss feedback, or isolate themselves out of pride or mistrust. On the other side, it can also show up as dependency — leaning too heavily on others’ approval instead of making choices from inner clarity.
Examples might include:
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A young adult leaving home for the first time and learning to make choices without parental guidance.
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An employee stepping into a leadership role, realizing they must trust their judgment rather than defer.
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A person breaking away from a relationship or community that defined their identity, to discover who they are on their own.
This subject asks: Do you know who you are — and are you willing to live in alignment with your values, even if others disagree?
This subject is about learning how to live in relationship — not only with others, but also with yourself. It’s the energy of balance, cooperation, and sensitivity, teaching us that life is not just about what I want, but also about how we create together.
When aligned, harmony shows up as empathy, diplomacy, and genuine cooperation. It’s the friend who listens without judgment, the partner who values compromise, or the co-worker who finds common ground when tensions rise. Sensitivity in this state becomes a strength — the ability to read a room, tune into another’s feelings, and bring calm where there is conflict.
In misalignment, harmony can slip into passivity, people-pleasing, or indecision. Sensitivity becomes overwhelm, where someone absorbs the emotions of others and loses their own centre. Instead of finding balance, they bend so far to keep the peace that they lose their voice. On the other side, misalignment may look like avoidance of conflict at all costs — sacrificing authenticity in the name of keeping things “nice.”
You can see this lesson play out in everyday life:
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A mediator who helps two sides find resolution, not by overpowering but by listening.
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A person who struggles to make decisions, afraid of letting someone down.
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A child who absorbs the mood of their parents and acts out, showing the cost of taking on too much of others’ energy.
This subject asks: Can you honour both your own needs and the needs of others without losing yourself in the process?
This subject is about learning to share your inner world with others — your thoughts, your feelings, your creativity, your truth. It’s not only about communication, but about bringing colour, lightness, and joy into life through authentic self-expression.
When aligned, this subject shows up as creativity, optimism, and the ability to uplift others simply by being yourself. It’s the laughter that fills a room, the poem that puts feelings into words, the song that touches someone’s heart. Expression in this state is magnetic — it brings joy, connection, and inspiration.
In misalignment, expression can turn shallow or scattered. Instead of depth, someone may rely on charm or humour to avoid vulnerability. They may gossip instead of speak truth, or spread themselves thin chasing excitement without focus. Misalignment can also look like withholding — silencing your own voice out of fear of judgment, or hiding your creativity because it feels “unimportant.”
You can see this lesson in everyday life:
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A child drawing freely, with no concern for whether it’s “good” — just the joy of expression.
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A performer who energizes and uplifts, showing how joy ripples outward.
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A person who avoids serious conversations with jokes, missing the chance to connect at a deeper level.
This subject asks: Are you willing to share your authentic self with the world — and allow joy to be part of your expression?
This subject is about learning the value of discipline, routine, and steady effort. While spontaneity has its place, lasting growth is built on a strong foundation. Stability is what allows dreams to take form, and structure provides the container where creativity and vision can flourish.
When aligned, this subject shows up as reliability, practicality, and perseverance. It’s the builder who lays each brick carefully, knowing the structure will stand for years. It’s the person who follows through on commitments, who organizes their life in a way that supports both productivity and peace. In alignment, stability doesn’t feel rigid — it feels grounding, dependable, and secure.
In misalignment, structure can harden into stubbornness, rigidity, or fear of change. Someone may cling to rules or routines so tightly that they suffocate growth. On the other end of the spectrum, misalignment can show up as chaos: disorganization, procrastination, or lack of follow-through, where no foundation is strong enough to support progress.
You can see this lesson in everyday life:
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A student who builds good study habits that serve them far beyond school.
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A family who creates rituals — shared meals, traditions — that become touchstones of stability.
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An employee who resists a needed change because “this is how we’ve always done it.”
This subject asks: Are you willing to do the steady work of creating structure in your life — not as a cage, but as the ground from which growth can thrive?
This subject is about learning to embrace life’s unpredictability — to flow with change rather than resist it. Freedom is not the absence of responsibility, but the ability to adapt, explore, and discover new possibilities without being held back by fear or rigidity.
When aligned, this subject shows up as curiosity, adaptability, and a spirit of adventure. It’s the traveler who finds joy in new cultures, the innovator who thrives on fresh ideas, the person who can shift plans gracefully when life takes an unexpected turn. Freedom in this state is expansive — it opens doors, sparks growth, and keeps life vibrant.
In misalignment, freedom can slip into restlessness, recklessness, or avoidance. A person may chase excitement without direction, resist commitments, or run from discomfort rather than facing it. On the other side, misalignment may appear as fear of change — clinging to comfort zones and resisting new experiences, even when growth calls.
You can see this lesson in everyday life:
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Someone who decides to change careers midlife, embracing uncertainty as an opportunity for growth.
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A student studying abroad who learns resilience by navigating a new environment.
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A person who refuses to commit to relationships or responsibilities because they equate freedom with escape.
This subject asks: Can you welcome change as a catalyst for freedom and growth — instead of resisting or running from it?
This subject is about learning how to show up for both yourself and others with reliability, compassion, and balance. True responsibility isn’t about control or over-sacrifice — it’s about recognizing what is yours to carry, honouring commitments, and creating an environment of care without losing sight of your own well-being.
When aligned, responsibility looks like devotion, service, and steadiness. It’s the parent who provides for their family with love, the leader who supports their team with fairness, or the friend who shows up when they say they will. Responsibility in this sense is deeply nourishing — it creates trust, strengthens bonds, and gives life a sense of stability and purpose.
In misalignment, this subject can swing in two directions. On one side, a person may avoid responsibility, leaving commitments unmet and relationships unstable. On the other, someone may take on too much — trying to control outcomes, over-caring to the point of burnout, or sacrificing themselves in the name of duty. Both extremes distort the true lesson, which is about balance.
Examples can be seen all around us:
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The caregiver who learns to set boundaries so their service remains sustainable.
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The community volunteer who discovers fulfillment in giving back.
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The employee who avoids tasks and accountability, only to find themselves stuck or mistrusted.
This subject asks: Can you honour your commitments with care — to others, and equally, to yourself?
This subject is about learning to look beneath the surface of life and listen to the quiet voice within. It’s the path of self-reflection, discernment, and seeking meaning beyond appearances. Wisdom and truth come not from constant activity, but from pausing long enough to ask: What feels real? What feels aligned?
When aligned, this subject fosters depth and clarity. It shows up as someone who trusts their intuition, who takes time for reflection before making decisions, and who seeks knowledge not just for information, but for understanding. Wisdom is about connecting the dots between experience and insight — learning from what has been, and allowing that learning to guide the present.
In misalignment, the search for truth can become distorted. A person may isolate themselves, mistrusting others or retreating too far into detachment. Or, they may over-analyze, getting lost in endless thinking instead of trusting their inner compass. Another form of misalignment is the opposite — failing to question at all, simply taking things at face value, lacking discernment, or being easily swayed by the loudest voice. Both extremes reflect a disconnect from inner truth.
Examples can be seen in everyday life:
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The seeker who finds meaning in meditation, journaling, or time in nature.
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The student who craves deeper answers, sensing that life is more than what’s on the surface.
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The individual who mistrusts everyone, cutting themselves off from connection — or who doubts their own intuition so much that clarity never comes.
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The person who never questions what they’re told, accepting beliefs uncritically and missing the chance to discover deeper truths.
This subject asks: Do you create space for inner wisdom, and trust what it reveals to you?
This subject is about learning how to work with energy, resources, and influence in a grounded and purposeful way. It’s not just about achieving goals or gaining success, but about recognizing the responsibility that comes with power. True manifestation is more than “making things happen” — it’s aligning ambition with integrity, and building something that serves both self and others.
When aligned, this subject expresses as confidence, resilience, and a healthy drive to achieve. It looks like setting clear goals, following through with discipline, and using influence in ways that uplift rather than exploit. A person aligned here doesn’t shy away from ambition — they embrace it — but they do so with a deep awareness of impact. They understand that power is a tool, not an identity.
In misalignment, power can be misused or feared. Some may become overly controlling, chasing material success at the cost of relationships or personal well-being. Others may swing the other way, avoiding ambition altogether out of fear of failure, responsibility, or judgment. Both expressions show a distorted relationship with power. Misalignment can also appear as working endlessly but never feeling “enough,” or as chasing external validation instead of building from an inner sense of purpose.
Examples show up in many ways:
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The leader who inspires and uplifts others, creating success that benefits the collective.
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The entrepreneur who builds a business with integrity, balancing profit with service.
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The person who clings tightly to control, equating worth with status or wealth.
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The individual who hides from responsibility, shrinking back from opportunities to step into leadership.
This subject asks: Am I using my ambition and resources in ways that reflect my values — and that create something lasting and meaningful?
Compassion & Completion (Part I: Completion)
This subject is about learning to see life through a broader lens — to recognize endings not as failures, but as essential steps in the cycle of growth. It’s where forgiveness, release, and vision come together, asking us to let go with clarity and understanding. Compassion here means being able to witness yourself and others without judgment, and to extend kindness even in the face of imperfection.
In alignment, this subject expresses as wisdom, empathy, and the ability to release with grace. It looks like forgiving past hurts, creating closure, and honouring the lessons learned while moving forward. A person aligned here understands that endings clear the way for beginnings — and that completion brings healing, not emptiness.
In misalignment, the opposite can occur. Some may resist closure, holding tightly to grudges, regrets, or unfinished business. Others may fall into resentment, identifying too strongly with suffering and becoming stuck in cycles of victimhood. Misalignment can also look like difficulty forgiving — either oneself or others — which blocks the flow of renewal.
Examples might include:
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The person who forgives a painful past, not to excuse it, but to free themselves from its weight.
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The healer or mentor who uses their own experiences of loss to guide others with perspective and vision.
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The individual who clings to old hurts, replaying them over and over, unable to move forward.
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The one who resists endings, keeping relationships, jobs, or habits long past their natural lifespan.
This subject asks: Am I able to release what no longer serves me, and bring closure in a way that opens space for something new?
Compassion & Completion (Part II: Compassion)
Like all soul lessons, compassion cannot be grasped through theory alone — it must be lived. But compassion is unique in how often it is misunderstood. Many expect it to come naturally to everyone, when in truth it is a stage of soul development. Without the contrast of suffering, loss, or heartbreak, true compassion cannot take root. Expecting someone who has never lived that lesson to embody it is like expecting a child to read Shakespeare — it sets them up for judgment instead of understanding.
Our souls are ancient, but not all of us have chosen the same number of lifetimes. For some, kindness, compassion, or generosity feel natural — ingrained through many lives of practice. For others, these lessons are not yet second nature. They may need to be awakened or remembered — triggered by a story, a book, or a film that stirs empathy because it resonates with hardship carried forward from another lifetime. And for others still, this may be one of their very first incarnations, or perhaps a previous life was cut short before growth could unfold. In those cases, compassion is not absent — it simply hasn’t yet been lived into being.
In alignment, this subject expresses as empathy, perspective, and the ability to meet others without judgment. It is the understanding that every soul is on its own timeline, and that compassion itself includes accepting that not everyone is capable of it yet.
In misalignment, compassion is misunderstood. It shows up as judging others for not showing empathy, or condemning them for lessons they have not yet reached. It may also look like over-identifying with suffering, seeing oneself only through the lens of pain, and becoming trapped in cycles of victimhood.
Examples might include:
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A person who feels deep empathy when hearing someone’s story of hardship, even if they’ve never lived through that experience themselves.
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Someone whose compassion awakens suddenly after going through their own season of loss or challenge.
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A teacher, healer, or mentor who sees beyond judgment and instead meets others with patience and understanding.
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An individual who struggles to feel compassion, not because they’re unkind, but because they haven’t yet lived the contrast that makes empathy possible.
This subject asks: Am I able to extend compassion not only to those who suffer, but also to those who are not yet capable of compassion themselves?
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In the end, the Soul Subjects are not boxes to check but threads in a much larger tapestry of purpose. We are not here to perfect these lessons — we are here to live them. To feel deeply. To let life stir something real in us. Some souls incarnate to build, some to heal, some to love, some to disrupt — and some come to hold contrast so that compassion can take root in others. There is exquisite planning in all of it.
It is not our place to judge the role another soul plays, nor to question why suffering exists. Without suffering, compassion would have nowhere to grow. Without contrast, joy would have no meaning. Each soul carries its own curriculum, yet all journeys are part of the same unfolding.
So if you are looking for purpose, let it be this;
It's choosing intention over distraction
It's aligning your inner world with your outer world
It's honouring your authenticity
It's activating what stirs your soul and brings fulfillment